Two years ago, Jay Papa decided to make a significant change in his life. He set himself a challenge: to run 24 miles on the day he celebrated 24 months sober.
“This wasn’t a spur-of-the-moment decision.” Jay told us “I planned it three months ago to ensure I stayed accountable and reached my goal of two years without alcohol. I chose to do it around my favourite place, the Emirates Stadium. Fifty-plus laps might sound daunting, but at least the route was flat!”
A Turning Point
Reaching two years sober wasn’t easy for Jay. He was tired of disappointing himself and his family. Jay knew he needed to make changes to his life.
“My good friend Eamon played a big part in my decision. He turned one year sober on 23rd May 2022. Seeing his achievement made me realise I wanted the same for myself. So, the very next day, I stopped drinking. This year, Eamon celebrated three years sober on the 23rd, and I marked two years on the 24th. We’re both going strong, taking it one day at a time.
“The first 90 days were the hardest. Breaking old habits and forming new, healthier ones took a lot of effort. Every “first” was a challenge. The first time going to the pub without drinking, attending a party, watching an Arsenal game, and even the first wedding. Each milestone I passed gave me more strength and confidence. Now, it’s just normal life for me. But back then, each event felt like climbing a mountain.”
The Positives
Jay is a huge advocate for sober life, and has come to realise that there are so many positives to being sober. “I’ve made my friends and family proud. Waking up fresh every day, especially on Mondays, is such a change. I used to feel awful every Monday, hating life. Now, my health and fitness are the best they’ve ever been. I’m present and living in the moment, loving life, and genuinely happy. And I sleep so much better, too.
Reflecting on the journey, the decision to stop drinking was life-changing. It wasn’t just about quitting alcohol; it was about reclaiming my life and building a future I could be proud of. The support from friends, family, and even strangers has been incredible. Each word of encouragement and every congratulatory message has strengthened my resolve.
In the early days of sobriety, every decision felt monumental. Choosing to go to social events where alcohol flowed freely was tough. I worried about peer pressure and the temptation to relapse. But each event became easier. I found new ways to enjoy myself and realised that fun doesn’t need to involve alcohol. Instead, it became about the company, the conversations, and the memories made.
Another positive change has been mental clarity. Without the fog of alcohol, my mind is sharper. I can think more clearly and make better decisions. This clarity has improved my work, relationships, and overall quality of life. I’m more present in the moment, able to fully engage with the people and activities I love.
Sobriety has also strengthened my relationships. Friends and family have noticed the change in me. They see a happier, healthier person, someone who is more reliable and engaged. Trust, which was once strained, has been rebuilt. The bonds with my loved ones are stronger than ever, a foundation I cherish deeply.”
Health and Fitness
A huge benefit of sobriety has been Jay’s improved health and fitness. A big fan of running, it’s now become a central part of his life. Training for races and setting new personal records keeps Jay focused. It’s a healthy outlet that brings immense satisfaction. “The thrill of crossing the finish line is unparalleled, a testament to hard work and dedication.” confirmed Jay, who runs for Fairlands Valley Spartans in Stevenage. Being part of the club has inspired Jay to take part in may more challenges:
“There are more races on the horizon. I’m participating in midweek league races for my club. Then there’s the Endure 24 event with a group of friends. In July, I’ll tackle the Fairlands Valley Challenge, a 50k run. I’ll also start my marathon training for the Stevenage Marathon on 15th July. Each day, I work hard, stay sober, and strive to get even fitter. Being sober definitely gives me the energy I need for these challenges!”
Sobriety is a daily commitment for Jay and many others who have. Some days are easier than others, but each day sober is a victory.
“Being part of a supportive community has been vital. My running club, the Spartans, and various support groups have provided a network of encouragement and accountability. Sharing experiences and celebrating milestones with others who understand the journey makes a big difference.”
Celebrating two years sober with a 24-mile run was a significant milestone. It marked not just time passed but a testament to transformation and growth. Sobriety has brought countless positives into my life, from health and fitness to stronger relationships and mental clarity. As I continue this journey, I’m grateful for the support and encouragement from friends, family, and the community. Each day is an opportunity to be the best version of myself, and I’m excited about what the future holds.”
If you’re considering sobriety or currently on that path, remember that you’re not alone. Take it one day at a time, celebrate your victories, and stay focused on the positives.
If you, or anyone you know would like help, please visit https://alcoholchange.org.uk/
